What if I fall for my no-strings-attached lover after painful break-up?
- Deidre Sanders
- Agony Aunt
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I had brilliant sex with a guy I hooked up with online. We both want to keep this thing casual but how do I stop myself getting involved?
I’m 24 and I split up from my long-term boyfriend in May. He’s 25 and the break-up hit me hard.
I knew that I had to move on so I logged on to an app for meeting random guys for casual sex. It was really good fun and it helped me get over my ex.
The latest guy is 28. We messaged a few times and then we decided to meet. I was stunned when I saw him, he’s really nice-looking and fit. We went for a meal and then on to a bar for a drink.
He was funny and generous and I felt myself falling for him straight away. At the end of the night we went back to his flat. We chatted and kissed and then we had sex. It was great.
The next day he said that he’s happy to see me again just as long as we keep it all casual. I’m happy with that as I don’t want to go out with any one yet. I just want to have fun.
The question I’ve got is, how do I stop myself looking too eager? He’s the nicest guy that I’ve ever been with and he made me feel really good about myself. He took an interest in me and he laughed at my jokes.
The best thing of all is that he let me stay the whole night and then kissed me goodbye in the morning. He didn’t kick me out straight after the sex like the other guys did.
DEIDRE SAYS: That could be tricky, especially as I don’t think you’re being honest with yourself here. If you don’t want to go out with him, why are you worried he’ll lose interest in you? There are plenty more fish in the sea.
Deep down I think you would really like to be in a committed relationship again but it sounds like you’re worried you’re going to get hurt, and with good reason I think. Read more